I’m too fat to be skinny, and too skinny to be fat. I’m talking about sizes. Technically speaking, I’m a plus size human being. I wear beyond a size 8. I think the last time I wore anything close to that number was when I was about 10 years old. And good thing, because if I could fit into a size 8 today I would have to surgically remove my lower ribs and most definitely have an eating disorder.
I am big boned, fat, thick, curvy, tall, plus size, amazonian–all of these things. However, these days there are a lot of larger people than I who are shouting proudly that they are plus size. Great! But where do I fit in?
I have my own impressions of my body and it would be nice to band together with like-bodied people. I can’t exactly jump on the plus size bandwagon as much as I am stoked that body positivity is a louder message now than ever. Hips don’t lie, and I don’t have the size to wear the badge.
On the other hand, I’m not skinny enough to fit in with the lower sizes. Never have been, never will be. And I’m also totally cool with that. It’s not realistic or healthy. I’m of Scotch-Irish descent. I’m like a Clydesdale. I’m built to haul heavy loads, build muscle, and go into battle!
So if I’m not a standard size and I’m not a plus size, am I a mid-size? Am I a normal-realistic-human size?
I don’t know.
What I am asking is, do size labels matter? Yes and no. No, in the sense that size is a relative number. Its functional purpose is to help you as a human being find garments that will cover your naked body. That’s it. In that sense, cis female sizing gets a big old “F”. Sizes vary from brand to brand, from year to year. It’s probably a campaign to attract certain body types to certain brands and keep them there because it’s just too much of a pain to find another brand that works. That’s a great brand loyalty concept! Since I curate vintage fashion, I’ve found that my actual measurements are the greatest tool in finding clothes that will fit. They completely take away the guesswork and confusion built by the fashion industry.
The reality is that size labels do matter. Putting a label on anything can be a powerful tool. I want to know what my body type is other than 12L. I want to use it to find people like me. Right now, I feel like the middle child–left out of both the low sizes and the plus sizes.
The challenge is trying to find a label that works and promotes body positivity and a community. The conclusion? A compromise. Labels like “in-betweener”, “average” , or *shudder*, “mid-size” aren’t magnificent enough to encompass all the fine people that make up a huge portion of the population.
From now on, I’m going to label my posts with #ILOVEMYSIZE and I encourage you to as well! Forget the size, forget the gender, this is just you and your body. You do you and I’ll do me. We’re all fabulous and wondrous creations. Let’s celebrate the fact that no one else is quite like us and hopefully connect with like-minded individuals in the process!
See you on the interwebz,